Mom Fashion Friday

Another week flew by! I am excited it is already Friday, but at the same time I cannot believe it went this fast. I not only have some Mom Fashion deals to share, but I have a new kid site that Paisley has partnered with that carries SUPER cute and hand sewn designs for both boys and girls. A special code will give you 15% off your order – check for it in the Chocolate Soup Brand section of this post.

As you know, I LOVE Pink Blush. They have both women’s wear and maternity wear. Most of the maternity wear can be worn post-partum, which makes me love them even more. It is so easy to transition the pieces from bump to baby! This floral peplum shirt is my new fave. It hides the belly so nicely and is a great length on me. I’m 5’7″ and it hits perfectly. I have the coral version, but it also comes in a blue and black color.

Some other favorites from Pink Blush I have already posted about, and you can find them here and here. I have this Navy Maxi dress, but I do not have pictures of it yet. Super comfy, hits the floor (which is one of the main reasons why I love it) and nursing friendly!

Another new company that I have found is Poppy & Dot! I am waiting on my first piece from them, but found a bunch of simple and cute (and reasonably priced!) pieces. I am loving the Midi Dress for an upcoming wedding I have this fall. I think the navy color would be perfect! It is under $50 and has pockets! PLUS if you shop their main site and enter the code kallieG10 you will get 10% off your order! win-win! When I get my pieces in, I’ll be sure to take some pictures for you all!

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Last one today is a new kid’s line that I recently discovered. The creator of this shop, Brittany, and I went to high school together. (Check her out on Instagram here) Paisley was chosen as a brand rep and received the CUTEST peplum tee with her name embroidered on it!

I also just purchased this KC Birdie Tee and this Be Royal Tee! Even though we are California peeps now and soon to be Texas peeps…she will always be a KC girl at heart! Check out Chocolate Soup Brand and use the code PAISLEY15 to get 15% off your order.

I keep finding good boutiques and shops on Facebook (partially thanks to Casey and Shay!), so I will be sure to highlight them when I find them…mainly so I do not feel guilty being the ONLY one spending all the money! You have to suffer along with me, with all these cute clothes! haha

Happy Friday all!

~xo~

Another Self Reflection Moment!

It has been almost 3 MONTHS since I sat down and threw my thoughts on paper (not actual paper, but you get the idea…). This whole new baby that makes 3 kids + trying to sell a house is NOT easy. I am struggling with organizing my time and my day, but I should get points for trying. This topic has been on my mind for a while and I am working through some personal things with it, so I figured why not put it all out there – be SUPER vulnerable – and see what you all think!

I have always compared myself to other people, finding flaws in me and pointing out the good in them. What I realized is that does nothing positive for me at all. All it does is continue to make me feel bad about myself. Last weekend, my husband went to Arizona for a Fraternity Leadership School and I gave him the hardest time for leaving. I was stuck here in California with no family and my three kids (I promise I love them, but doing it on my own is HARD!)…I had this crazy idea to drive the kids and myself 15 hours to our family reunion in Utah…did I mention I’d be doing it ALL BY MYSELF?!?!?…just to get out of being alone for the weekend….crazy talk right? Well let me reassure you that the trip most definitely did not happen. And the weekend actually was not all that bad…who knew! ha

The thing about this trip that I wanted to take was that Brian felt very strongly that I should not go. I, of course, jumped immediately to some fault he was suggesting I had (not the best driver, could not handle it, would want to turn around after a few hours, etc.) and not the actual reason he was against it – he did not want anything to happen to me and the kids. Our car has been slightly wonky lately and he did not want to put our lives in the somewhat un-trusty hands of that car. I only realized this conclusion after he had left and I sent a rant worthy text to him about the situation. It was then that I realized I had, yet again, looked at my own faults rather than searching for my strengths. He was not trying to bring me down even more – he was wanting to protect me.

All of this brings me back to what I continue to refer to in multiple posts, that I am still struggling to appreciate myself and what I am worth. I feel like I can trace this back to middle school (although it most likely has gone on longer than that!), but I for sure can pinpoint different situations in middle school that continue to feed this negative self-image and viewing others’ lives as WAY better than mine. I received a strong “kick in the butt” from my wonderful husband yet again. The text message he sent in response to my somewhat snarky rant said many things, but one important piece stuck with me. He said “If we are not happy, we only have ourselves to blame”. He is so right. I am the one to blame for my unhappiness. I am the one that can change my thoughts. I am the one that has to change how I feel about myself. I am the one who can make our house a home. I am the one who has to force myself to remove focus on others and put a little focus on myself. I am the first to say I need a break and the first to say no when given the opportunity.

I believe strongly in the statement there is no such thing as a coincidence. My mom is such a positive influence in my life and she continually reminds me of this thought. She says that God has a plan for all of us and these “coincidences” are His way of letting us know He is there and that all things will work out.

If Brian had not gone on to Leadership School, I would not have sent the mean text, which would result in Brian not having to send his reply. If all of this did not happen, I would have never heard the words that I so desperately needed to hear. I am terrible at putting myself first and seeing myself in a positive light. This text made me realize that I am doing myself and those around me a disservice. The more miserable/jealous/incompetent/etc I see myself, the more that projects onto others.

The more I write these thoughts down, the more I hope they stick. So here is my somewhat apology for continuing to repeat these themes throughout some of these posts. I need them repeatedly throughout my life so that I can take them to heart. My hope is that the more I express my frustrations, the more likely I am to work out these personal issues and get past it. I am surrounded by wonderful people in my life who continually remind me of my worth. My mother continues to remind me that I am who I am supposed to be. I am a mother, a wife, a daughter and a daughter of God. I am special. My husband loves me unconditionally – even with the constant self-put downs and nagging. Out of all the people he could have chose, he chose me! My children need me to be the best mommy I can be – and the example that I set for them about self-image and worth needs to be positive. There are so many other people who influence my thoughts and I thank you for being one of them!

If you have made it this far then I thank you! This is a deep down and personal issue that only I can change. Bare with me while I work through this, as it is all an attempt to better myself – for myself – but also for those around me. Here goes another attempt at resetting my internal thoughts and forcing myself to point out the positives! We are always a work in progress – and as long as we are progressing, then that is enough. We are enough.

~xo~

 

Fashion Friday

Switching gears a bit this post – there are just too many good deals from Stella & Dot to NOT call attention to!

Twice a year Stella & Dot does a “cleaning” of certain styles, which puts them on the retiring list! That time of the year is NOW! 15% of our line will be retired in order to make room for the new line launch in July! Starting today through May 30th these retiring styles are on MEGA sale…I cannot believe the deals they are having PLUS it’s Dot Dollar time! For every $50 you spend now, you get $25 off $50 to redeem later.

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This isn’t even the most exciting part…I am having a Mystery Hostess show right now through Tuesday the 23rd. Any order placed earns an entry to win ALL the hostess rewards (which are currently at $252 in free goodies and 4 half off items!). More orders = bigger rewards! You can shop that show link here (click sale tab to see all the amazing deals!!!) and all the items I am linking in the pictures today are linked through the show. If you see something snag it up, because it might not be around for long!

PS – WAY more styles online than I’m highlighting…obviously. These are a few of my favorites that are on sale!

Brio Tassel

Brio Tassel Necklace reduced from $69 to $41.40

Collage Statement Necklace

Collage Statement Necklace reduced from $198 to $133

Alila Chandeliers

Alila Chandelier Earrings reduced from $44 to $26

Finish the look with the matching Alila Cuff reduced from $98 to $48

 

Black Arc Pendant Necklace

Black Arc Pendant Necklace reduced from $59 to $35

Relic Ring, Pave Horn Ring, Mia Collar, Black Arc Pendant

Relic Ring reduced from $29 to $14
Pave Horn Ring reduced from $39 to $23
Mia Collar reduced from $39 to $23
Black Arc Pendant necklace reduced from $59 to $35

New Moon Necklace, Cage Cuff

New Moon Necklace reduced from $59 to $35
Cage Cuff – Gold reduced from $44 to $28

Pouf Slim - Black and Gold

Slim Pouf – Black and Gold reduced from $25 to $15

Bridge Bracelet and Ring

Bridge Bracelet and Ring reduced from $44 to $28

Tribal Tassel

Tribal Tassel Necklace reduced from $169 to $55

This weekend only there is an additional 25% off the sale prices. Don’t forget to shop through the Mystery Hostess link here to earn an entry to win all the goodies (Currently sitting at $252 in free product plus 4 half off items!)

Happy Shopping!!

~xo~

 

Love & Logic: Review Part 1

One would think that a clinical social worker can handle herself and her children in the best manner – at all times – how not true that statement is!

Parenting and motherhood is THE hardest thing I have EVER done in my entire life! I taught multiple parent trainings that centered around self care, emotional awareness, regulation skills and cognitive stimulation. These trainings only grazed the surface on what all went in to parenthood, but I felt like I knew more than the average person about child development and what to do in tricky situations. Boy was I wrong…ha

Making the decision to start a family is a HUGE decision in one’s relationship. It comes with life style changes, husband and wife challenges, and oh yeah…those cute little babies! The thing with babies is they grow up and turn in to toddlers, threenagers and beyond – all with their own challenges.

If you’ve been reading my posts, you know that I our oldest daughter has given me a run for my money lately (check out these posts here and here to get an idea of what I’m talking about). The two kid challenge has really tested my social work skills and mommy brain – now with the third on the way (within 2 weeks!) – my stress level has peaked.

With all this going on I decided I need to stop complaining and start doing something about all my miscues and stress level. I went back to some training material and was reminded about a few different parenting books that were used to give tips and tricks during parent training. One of which was Parenting With Love And Logic by Cline and Fay.

I have not opened this book since my early social work years, and have yet to finish it – there are so many good points that I figured a mid book summary was okay! I will say, I am not TOTALLY convinced on EVERY.SINGLE.THING they promote, but the general gist of the book and the ability it has already had to make me stop and think about my words is working for me.

Cline and Fay begin the book by talking about the basic premise of being a “Love and Logic Parent”. This meaning that the parents are raising responsible children who learn from their mistakes and consequences – whether positive or negative – (they call them Significant Learning Opportunities). A Love & Logic parent helps their children “move from total dependence on us to independence, from being controlled by us to controlling themselves.” This theme carries itself throughout the entire book and is referred back to throughout the scenarios and tips given.

They jump next in to different parenting styles – and here is my disclaimer: I am not promoting any of these nor am I trying to make anyone feel guilty about which one they “fall” under. I think each person needs to find what works best for them and focus on improving that skill as a parent. I find myself in different categories that they describe at different times in my motherhood – I’m trying to focus on changing some things I do personally that works best for my kids and my family and so should you!

  • Helicopter Parent – Cline and Fay describe these parents as those who are always coming to rescue their child. They run lunches, permission slips, homework to school. They are always pulling their children out of a jam. “Whenever their children send up an SOS flare, helicopter parents, who are ready hovering nearby, swoop in and shield their children from teachers, playmates and other elements that appear hostile”.
    • Cline and Fay feel that these types of parents are loving, but depriving children from learning. “Such children are unequipped for the challenges of life. Their significant learning opportunities were stolen from them in the name of love.”
  • Drill Sergeant Parents – They love their children and the more they “bark orders and the more they control”, the better their kids will be in the long run. They are constantly told what to do.
    • “Kids of drill sergeant parents, when given the chance to think for themselves, often make horrendous decisions…these kids are rookies in the world of decision making”. Cline and Fay claim that these types of children are followers because they never learned how to make decisions for themselves.
  • The Consultant Parent – “Love & Logic Parent” As children grow, they move from being concrete thinkers to being abstract thinkers when they are teens. Children need thoughtful guidance and firm, enforceable limits. The authors state that as children grow into adolescents, this parenting style becomes even more important.
    • Children have been taught to make their own decisions. They are offered choices while young (but can still be started in teen years) which forces them to think about choices and the consequences. “In order for children to succeed, their kids need to learn to make their own decisions.”

According to Cline and Fay, being a consultant parent is “the” way to go – again to each their own, and I have found myself at times in all three of these categories. I’m stating again that I am LOVING this book for the fact that it is making me stop in my tracks, reflect on how I interact with my children, and forcing myself to make a better choice of words or actions next time the situation arises.

Multiple examples are given throughout the book which help with understanding – most of which pertain to a little bit older children, but the underlying meaning is still relevant. The authors also put in “Love and Logic Tips” that are excerpts of personal stories they use as teaching moments. These are SUPER helpful and easy to refer back to when needing a refresher.

I think the hardest part of parenting, which they nail on the head AND encourage, is that we as parents have to see our children fail. I mean how hard is that?!?! Look at these cuties and tell me you don’t want to help them not ever have to feel trials!

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However, through these failures come consequences (they refer to them as Significant Learning Opportunities) and are the lessons that children need to learn. The positive end of this for us parents is through these SLOs, children learn responsibility and independence. “Children who grow in responsibility also grow in self-esteem, a pre-requisite for achievement in the real world…there is a direct correlation between self-concept and performance in school, at home , on the playground, or wherever children may be. Kids learn best and are responsible when they feel good about themselves.”

So far I am enjoying this book. The many examples and phrases they say NOT to do, I have done – and they couple that with what I should be saying to create a lasting relationship with my kids. I love that it is making me stop and think – as that is how I best learn as a parent – and learn new ways to interact with Paisley and Carson. It is helping me step towards my goal of 2017, which is to become a better mother, wife and friend.

I will continue to post reviews of this book as I get further in to it. If you have any questions along the way, do not hesitate to ask me! I’d be happy to give my opinion (and it is JUST that…my opinion – you are the expert of your own life!) and what the book suggests one to do.

Thanks for reading!

~xo~

Fashion Friday

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Outfit Details:
On Kallie
Pink Blush Wrap Dress, c/o | Stella & Dot Bracelets {here, here and here} | Fitbit
On Paisley
Target Dress {exact one is from last year. Similar style here} | Cardigan | Mary Jane Flats

So I failed at getting this post up in a consistent and timely manner…surprise…BUT here is the second edition of my Mom Fashion Friday! I am continuing to improve my posting consistency, and for some reason I go in spurts! I promise it will get better. HA!

It’s getting a little harder to feel comfortable with this gigantic belly – 37 weeks in this photo – but we are getting more and more excited to meet our baby girl!

I’ve wanted a floral wrap dress for a while now and finally found one that I love. It’s the perfect light blue color AND it is long enough for my 5 foot 7 frame. Super comfy and thick (no extra layers! woohoo). My favorite aspect is that I can wear it after I have baby too. Perfect for nursing and beyond.

I had to share Paisley’s style too! She specifically asked to have her picture taken – and that I got some of her twirling! (She poses WAY better than I do and I probably need to take tips on twirling from her!)

I hope you guys are enjoying this type of post. Let me know your thoughts!! Happy Friday All!

~xo~

Mom Fashion Friday

So I’m starting this new thing – let me know your thoughts!

I’ve had a lot of people ask me where I get my cute “mom clothes” – and let me be the first to tell you how shocked I am at these requests…me and fashionable in the same sentence is almost laughable. I am an everyday work at home momma who wears a t-shirt and jeans half the time, and yoga pants with a workout tee the other half.

I have started to branch out a bit and try my luck with “actually” getting ready some days (usually Sundays, let’s be real here) and trying to find good, quality pieces that will transition my t-shirts with the least amount of work possible.

Every Friday (I hope I am that consistent), I’ll be putting together a few of my pictures with the details on where I purchased the clothing items – or similar items – PLUS I’ll share some good finds from other MORE FASHIONABLE mommas!

If you’re friends with me on Facebook or Insta, you have seen this look most recently. When I first found out we were prego I knew I needed some new wardrobe pieces to fit the winter and spring time here in California. So many people recommended PinkBlushMaternity.com and I have not been disappointed yet with any of my purchases. Although I will say, I bought a pair of distressed skinny jeans from them – which I wear almost daily – but now that my baby bump is almost full grown, the belly panel hits almost at belly button level. I usually just roll it down so you can’t see the line. But if that bugs you, I’d probably look elsewhere for pants/jeans.

This Black and White Striped Dress I got from Pink Blush is SUPER comfortable and stretchy. My favorite part about most of the pieces I have from this company is that MOST are wearable post baby. This dress included. I apparently am a sucker for anything striped, so a black and white striped comfy dress is perf!

I paired the dress with the Lucky Brand  Risza open toe wedges – but they’re sold out! You can find similar Lucky Brand Styles from Nordstroms here (you can find similar ones from Amazon here) and of course some Stella jewels.

Striped Dress 1

Striped Dress 2 and Booties
Lucky Brand Open Toed Booties
Striped Dress 3 and Jewels
Celestial Choker, Essential Fringe Necklace, Bridge Bracelet/Ring, Chevron Leather Wrap, Ansley Cuff

Now for the “actual fashionable” ladies to get debuted! First up is my good friend Shannon Willardson. She is the voice of GBOFashion.com and has been a fashion blogger for over 4 years. She is a momma of 2 adorable kiddos and an Idaho girl at heart. Her style is impeccable and I absolutely love everything she wears – secretly hoping one day her garage filled clothing items can make there way to my house! Follow her on Instagram or Facebook to be inspired…seriously…she’s that good! AND she’s an AMAZING person – for real, for real – love her kindness and sincerity. She’s one of the many wonderful ladies I get to call my friend out here in Cali!

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Seriously…how cute is she? And I LOVE her blog posts as well – she shares the details on all of her pieces, including some worthy splurges and perfect savers for all your wardrobe needs. You definitely should check her out!

Let me know your thoughts on this type of post. I’d love to hear what ya think! It’s kind of fun for me to do and I hope you like them!!

Have a fantastic Friday all!

~xo~

The Last Year of My 20s

I feel like I have posted a lot about reflecting on my past – days, weeks or years – and over time I find that it helps me refocus on changes that I have said I would work on, or focus on what skills I need to improve on.

I write this today on my birthday – my 29th birthday, a.k.a. the last one before the big 3-0! I want to focus on the past year and all the changes that have occurred which bring me to where I am today – a nervous wreck half the time, and a well managed/organized pleasant person the other half! ha

Last year, Brian and I packed up our belongings and moved to California. A land we had never lived in before, where we knew no one. It is by a HUGE blessing from God that we landed where we are. The friends we have here are AMAZING and I’m so glad we felt the need to buy the house we did. We’ve been blessed beyond measure in both Brian’s career opportunity as well as our family’s well-being with this move and leap of faith.

We also had the pleasant (and some what scary) surprise of getting the chance to welcome a new baby into our family. Everyone says the 3rd kid is what did them in…so we welcome all the positive thoughts and baby wisdom you have! We are very excited, but at the same time a little nervous to see how this one goes.

Every time I feel overwhelmed, I think back to my daily scripture study and how that is helping reassure current decisions we make and my mothering skills. Through countless trials and tribulations, there are many examples of people overcoming these fears through trusting in the Lord. That is what I am aiming to do. I know there are feelings of insecurity throughout my daily life (in all aspects!), but putting my trust in Him is only helping me push through. This faith and hope of good is what helped us get to where we as a family are today.

If we hadn’t trusted Him with a move to California, the house and ward we are in, and the thoughts of adding another baby to our family I’m not sure where we would be. Brian and I have grown closer as a couple and stronger as parents. Our children have met some pretty amazing friends and found out what it is like to strengthen those relationships. We have been blessed beyond measure as a family and both Brian and my testimony have grown!

Even though I’m a bit nervous about this upcoming year, I am excited to see what it brings. Our new baby will be here in a month or so (OMGOSH!!!!!), a new sister (Cannot believe my brother is getting married! But so excited for their future!!!), and there is an upcoming BIG changes for our family – will give more details when we know more! Reflecting on the past year and seeing all the positives, blessings and joys we experienced only makes me that much more excited for the last year of my 20s!

~xo~