Switching gears a bit this post – there are just too many good deals from Stella & Dot to NOT call attention to!
Twice a year Stella & Dot does a “cleaning” of certain styles, which puts them on the retiring list! That time of the year is NOW! 15% of our line will be retired in order to make room for the new line launch in July! Starting today through May 30th these retiring styles are on MEGA sale…I cannot believe the deals they are having PLUS it’s Dot Dollar time! For every $50 you spend now, you get $25 off $50 to redeem later.
This isn’t even the most exciting part…I am having a Mystery Hostess show right now through Tuesday the 23rd. Any order placed earns an entry to win ALL the hostess rewards (which are currently at $252 in free goodies and 4 half off items!). More orders = bigger rewards! You can shop that show link here (click sale tab to see all the amazing deals!!!) and all the items I am linking in the pictures today are linked through the show. If you see something snag it up, because it might not be around for long!
PS – WAY more styles online than I’m highlighting…obviously. These are a few of my favorites that are on sale!
This weekend only there is an additional 25% off the sale prices. Don’t forget to shop through the Mystery Hostess link here to earn an entry to win all the goodies (Currently sitting at $252 in free product plus 4 half off items!)
So I failed at getting this post up in a consistent and timely manner…surprise…BUT here is the second edition of my Mom Fashion Friday! I am continuing to improve my posting consistency, and for some reason I go in spurts! I promise it will get better. HA!
It’s getting a little harder to feel comfortable with this gigantic belly – 37 weeks in this photo – but we are getting more and more excited to meet our baby girl!
I’ve wanted a floral wrap dress for a while now and finally found one that I love. It’s the perfect light blue color AND it is long enough for my 5 foot 7 frame. Super comfy and thick (no extra layers! woohoo). My favorite aspect is that I can wear it after I have baby too. Perfect for nursing and beyond.
I had to share Paisley’s style too! She specifically asked to have her picture taken – and that I got some of her twirling! (She poses WAY better than I do and I probably need to take tips on twirling from her!)
I hope you guys are enjoying this type of post. Let me know your thoughts!! Happy Friday All!
So I’m starting this new thing – let me know your thoughts!
I’ve had a lot of people ask me where I get my cute “mom clothes” – and let me be the first to tell you how shocked I am at these requests…me and fashionable in the same sentence is almost laughable. I am an everyday work at home momma who wears a t-shirt and jeans half the time, and yoga pants with a workout tee the other half.
I have started to branch out a bit and try my luck with “actually” getting ready some days (usually Sundays, let’s be real here) and trying to find good, quality pieces that will transition my t-shirts with the least amount of work possible.
Every Friday (I hope I am that consistent), I’ll be putting together a few of my pictures with the details on where I purchased the clothing items – or similar items – PLUS I’ll share some good finds from other MORE FASHIONABLE mommas!
If you’re friends with me on Facebook or Insta, you have seen this look most recently. When I first found out we were prego I knew I needed some new wardrobe pieces to fit the winter and spring time here in California. So many people recommended PinkBlushMaternity.com and I have not been disappointed yet with any of my purchases. Although I will say, I bought a pair of distressed skinny jeans from them – which I wear almost daily – but now that my baby bump is almost full grown, the belly panel hits almost at belly button level. I usually just roll it down so you can’t see the line. But if that bugs you, I’d probably look elsewhere for pants/jeans.
This Black and White Striped Dress I got from Pink Blush is SUPER comfortable and stretchy. My favorite part about most of the pieces I have from this company is that MOST are wearable post baby. This dress included. I apparently am a sucker for anything striped, so a black and white striped comfy dress is perf!
I paired the dress with the Lucky Brand Risza open toe wedges – but they’re sold out! You can find similar Lucky Brand Styles from Nordstroms here (you can find similar ones from Amazon here) and of course some Stella jewels.
Now for the “actual fashionable” ladies to get debuted! First up is my good friend Shannon Willardson. She is the voice of GBOFashion.com and has been a fashion blogger for over 4 years. She is a momma of 2 adorable kiddos and an Idaho girl at heart. Her style is impeccable and I absolutely love everything she wears – secretly hoping one day her garage filled clothing items can make there way to my house! Follow her on Instagram or Facebook to be inspired…seriously…she’s that good! AND she’s an AMAZING person – for real, for real – love her kindness and sincerity. She’s one of the many wonderful ladies I get to call my friend out here in Cali!
Seriously…how cute is she? And I LOVE her blog posts as well – she shares the details on all of her pieces, including some worthy splurges and perfect savers for all your wardrobe needs. You definitely should check her out!
Let me know your thoughts on this type of post. I’d love to hear what ya think! It’s kind of fun for me to do and I hope you like them!!
Quick little gift guide for all those who need it! Valentine’s Day is coming quickly. Let me know what you think!
Diamond Initial Necklace: Gift her something she will love. White or black diamonds, 14k gold or white gold necklace. Get the first letter of her name, first letter of her last name, or a letter for each of her kiddos. These look great worn alone or layered.
Leather 3-in-1 Crossbody: Stella & Dot has been killing it lately in the bag department! This beauty can be worn 3 different ways, one of which converts to a clutch for those classier nights. I am also loving the new Sloane Bag. It comes in a fun spring mushroom color or a neutral saddle.
Engravable Bar Necklace: Personalization is the new ‘it’ thing these days. Engraving is included on this necklace and you can get kids names, wedding date or special coordinates. PLUS if you choose the gold finish, you can get it for $19.99 when you spend $50, now through Monday February 6th! Get her a $50 e-gift for later and the engravable necklace for now. Win-win!
Planner and Pens: In my book, you can never have too cute of a planner or too many pens. Especially colorful pens! Target has a bunch of planners, but I’m loving this style. I also have a Mormon Mom Planner and like the way the daily calendar is laid out, the monthly planner and room for notes, budgeting, monthly goals. It is all in one place. My favorite pens are either Sharpie Pens or Staedtler Pens
Graphic Tee: I completely ruined my Valentine’s Day already and opened my present! Usually Brian ships gifts to his office, but he forget this time. When it arrived I didn’t recognize the sender and opened it! It was a sweatshirt from Saturday Morning Pancakes. Her graphic tees and shirts are amazing and this sweatshirt is SO soft! He got me a small and it fits over my prego belly! I’m loving this tee too.
Jord Wood Watch: Unique wood watches that come in a variety of wood colors and watch styles. I am loving these two options the best tho! Frankie Series and Dover Series
Pocket Squares: If your hubby likes to show off in a suit, let him customize it a bit with a splash of color or pattern from a pocket square. Found these Pocket Squares these on Amazon and they offer a variety of color and pattern options.
Tie Clip: Finish off the chic suit look with some tie clips. Brian is gigantic, so a tie clip is an absolute must-have. I love these tie clips, that gives him some options.
Fit Bit: Brian is loving his Fit Bit Blaze. It is similar to the Apple Watch, but doesn’t have built in GPS. Easily syncs to his phone and app. There are a bunch of additional band options, as well. Found this one on Amazon, but the options are literally endless.
Date Night Sneakers: I am totally a Nike sneaker girl, but for a date night or something that needs a bit more class I love these Timberland sneakers I got for Brian. They go with everything. Saw this pair of Steve Madden’s that look great!
For That Little Girl:
Necklace & Bracelet Set: Paisley loves this set. It’s her “long necklace”. Bright coral beads with a sparkly flower brooch and grey ribbon. Matching stretchy bracelet finishes the look.
Friendship Bracelet: This cute adjustable bracelet comes in silver or gold, with braided string and a fun tassel. Wear it alone or stack it with other pieces. Get one for you and one for her for a matching set!
Notebook: Get her a fun and stylish notebook for all those doodles, homework or notes! This one from Amazon is super cute and holds the staple girl anthem! 😉
Love Tee: I love finding shirts that not only fit holidays, but that Paisley can wear year round. This one looks great with jeans or leggings (because that’s all Paisley will wear!).
Kid Safe Knives: Paisley has asked me daily to help cut veggies in the kitchen. Meal prep can sometimes be a hard time to keep the kids happy and get dinner ready. I found these knives from Amazon and we had the chance to test them out tonight! She chopped carrots (with a little help from me making them skinnier) while I did the onions and broccoli. It was SO nice to have a helper and keep her occupied.
These past few weeks I have been focusing on what the emphasis should be for my blog and instagram account (@momontrend) for this year – I should probably say that from the beginning of this adventure I have been trying to focus what the main point should be, finding myself struggling to find a consistent and satisfying path. This is where my brain is going and the path I want to venture down…stay with me…and let me know your feedback!
With so much focus on social media and the “perfect” family or “perfect” life, there is a lot of pressure on all of us to achieve these expectations. Brian actually shared a post with me about Lifestyle Porn (check it out here), and I feel that it is pretty spot on. The author relates the pornography epidemic to the obsession that women and men feel looking through Facebook or Instagram daily. I’m not sure about Utah being the sole area where it is found, but the obsession with others’ lives, their fashion or fitness level, the need to check in on people multiple times a day, etc. is spot on – just like someone’s addiction to pornography for sexual gratification, it truly is an obsession. One that makes us feel inadequate in our own lives, and leaving us with a desire for more.
With so many gorgeous women with perfect makeup, seemingly perfect children, immaculately clean houses and gorgeous clothes, it makes it hard for “plain Janes” or us “normals” to feel complete. Brian recently mentioned that, he too, had to unfollow a few fitness bloggers due to the feelings of inadequacy he felt about his own image, time management and food choices. High, usually unrealistic, expectations are all around us. Tempting us to lose focus of what is really important: our family, our faith and our friends.
I find myself falling into this trap over and over. Just the other day I told Brian about Rodan + Fields Eyelash Serum and how I would love some for my lashes and eyebrows because “that’s what everybody is doing now, longer eyelashes and fuller eyebrows”. He just turned to me and said “Why do you have to be like everybody else? I married you and I love you the way you are.”
Thanks for the reality check babe, again! There it was, that daily struggle I go through scrolling my instagram or Facebook feed. I got suckered again! ha. That’s when I figured I needed to find my purpose, find my focus, find myself.
This in turn means finding a path for this blog and my @momontrend instagram account. I find myself shifting from what I think other people want to read or see, and instead focus on what I want others to see or read (even if you don’t want to. haha!).
So here it goes…this blog is going to be about: my family, my failures/successes, putting my best foot forward (and hopefully by sharing these, it will help someone else, too), my somewhat new love for fashion and mom-style, and my views on parenting.
I have made it a goal this year to stop comparing myself to what others have/do and be thankful for the things I can do, the blessings I have. Sitting in Relief Society yesterday, we heard a lesson about sisterhood; what it means, how to strengthen it, and why it is important. In it was a quote from a talk given by Sis. Bonnie Oscarson (read the whole talk here) that truly hit me. Nothing too profound, but just enough truth to make me stop and think:
“The adversary would have us be critical or judgmental of one another. He wants us to concentrate on our differences and compare ourselves to one another. You may love to exercise vigorously for an hour each day because it makes you feel so good, while I consider it to be a major athletic event if I walk up one flight of stairs instead of taking the elevator. We can still be friends, can’t we?”
So relevant to my life lately. The adversary is so smart and has quite the grip on me these past few months. It made me slow down and think about how I can start to work on this change. There is no reason to be so critical of ourselves, especially since we are all daughters of a King. We are different for a reason. If the world was made up of millions of Kallies, it would be a pretty boring place! Embrace each other’s differences and empower each other.
I have a quote on my mirror that I see every day to remind me of this. YOU ARE ENOUGH. We all are. Remember that!
From a daily mantra, to tying in my instagram ;). I have struggled to figure out how my @momontrend would flow. I originally started it to relieve my close family and friends from Stella & Dot overload, as I know how many social selling companies are flooding our Facebook and other social media feeds. This account has and will continue to blossom (or at least I hope) into a page where you can see pictures of me, my family and my mommy fashion, with Stella & Dot mixed in. I am a basic tee and jeans girl that has grown to love adding flair with accessories. This is COMPLETELY out of my comfort zone, but something I’ve been wanting to do and share. So I am going for it. All out. No more excuses. No more hiding behind someone or something else. I am doing it for me. To grow. To share my story. To share my joy.
The parenting advice piece comes from a need to re-establish a healthy boundary for myself. I have a background in social work, particularly with little kiddos and their families and parents. I love sharing my knowledge (and a lot of failures and lessons learned along the way with my own family), and feel that not having practiced in almost 18 months I am losing my techniques. I am losing my patience with my own children and husband. I am miserable to be around. By committing to writing posts and reviewing articles, I will force myself to crack open my books and re-learn best practices. Will that make things perfect, no, but it can only help. Applying these techniques in my own life and family is what I need to do to make myself a happier mom and wife. For these two things, I am committed and willing to change!
So in a crazy nutshell, this will be the new focus for the blog and my instagram. Putting myself out there will only help with accountability. I want to be the best version of me and by hashing things out through this blog I can only make myself better.
So get ready for daily (or at least I’ll try my best!) pictures of my outfits and jewelry pairings/my kids/my #handyhubbys projects, bi-weekly posts on here about life happenings/reviews of articles/current DIY projects, and a whole lot of fun. I’m excited and nervous for this new turn in life. I have said this multiple times throughout the past year, but feel I now have a direction and plan.
A few weeks ago I saw a meme/video on Facebook that poked fun at the amount of Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) or Direct Sales companies. The gist of it was that people are so sick and tired of being invited to Facebook events, and added to groups of their friends who have taken the brave step to host a show or sign up to sell a product they love and believe in. These range from Stella & Dot, Younique, DotTerra and Beachbody. I myself am an Associate Stylist for Stella & Dot and have many friends and family members who represent other brands.
The real problem I had was not the video itself, but all the comments associated with the video. These ranged from positive to negative comments, but the ones that truly got to me were the mean, hateful and down right rude comments. Seriously, people need to learn the old saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.” Even on the internet. Everyone has a little more courage behind a screen and most would never say those comments to a person’s face.
I wanted to write a little plug for all those who have made the decision to sign up with a company, and for all those who fully support them. Direct sales companies have a very negative view to the general public. Pyramid schemes sound so negative. I was looking for some funny memes to add to this and typed in multi level marketing meme…almost 90% of what I saw was negative. I figure it’s time to break my silence and give you the flip side of a direct sales company, from someone who was that person ignoring the requests to join groups, declining invitations to host and had thoughts similar to “why would I pay for something I could by elsewhere, just so you get to make more money?”
Stella & Dot is the second direct sales company I joined, and I use that lightly. I don’t count my week long, very poor decision to sign up for Mary Kay. The pitch got me and it was hard to say no. I can laugh now, but LBH, to sell MK you have to like doing makeup, or at least be good at it…which I am neither! But hey I received a ton of goodies that I used, so at least there’s that.
I was VERY hesitant to sign up for S&D, and Brian was even more against the notion (seeing how terribly the whole MK thing went). We had a long sit down about my decision and made a spreadsheet (I know, shocker right??) of the potential cost, my goals, where I wanted to be within the company and how I would achieve that. My upline, who is the bomb.com BTW and an old Chi O friend, messaged me multiple times for about 2 months dangling more carrots with each message 😉. Still, even though I loved the products and saw the potential, I struggled to pull the trigger. This is WAY out of my comfort zone and would challenge me in ways I wasn’t sure I would enjoy.
During the time I was considering signing up, we were going through some major changes as a family. We recently welcomed Carson into the world, I quit my full-time job to stay at home…oh and there was that cross-country move we were making. Starting this adventure would mean having to be social! And talk to people I didn’t know! (My introverted-self is sweating right now just thinking about it. ha) But seriously, it was the one thing that was holding me back. Could I actually do it? Could I ask my friends to host? My family to host? My facebook “friends”? People I hadn’t talked to in years? I still feel this way, even with strangers. Then you realize that I wouldn’t be doing my job, I wouldn’t be growing and challenging myself as planned. So I did. And continue to do.
Every person who begins a direct sales position has these questions go through their head, and ultimately has to decide how important their “why” is. If your why is important, then you just do it. If people say no, who cares. Move on. No harm done. Now this took me a long time to learn and be okay with. If you read my previous post about personality profiles, you will know I am a chameleon. Pleasing others is my number one goal in life. When I approach people with the opportunity to host or join, I want them to see the joy that I have experienced with this group of women I am now connected with. And when they say “not now” or “no thanks”, I feel like I have offended them…even though there is absolutely no reason to feel that way!
Once you join a direct sales company, you go through a paradigm shift. Mine went from “why would I give this person money?” to “I would love to support you get closer to your why”. The tribe that I am connected with are my best cheerleaders (and yes I acknowledge that they want me to do well, so they in turn make more money, etc. but it’s not even about that anymore). They are there to help me problem solve my struggles, to help me overcome my introverted-ness, to make me feel the fear and do it anyway, to change me for the better, to help me grow in confidence. We all share our dreams, our why, our goals with each other. We work as a team to empower each other and to do our best to help others achieve those goals.
It isn’t all about the money, that is nice, and the jewels are nice, too. But being a stay at home mom prior to signing up, I felt lost. I felt that my worth had diminished a bit, since I wasn’t working and having daily challenges. I wasn’t making and surpassing goals. It was a weird feeling for me, and I wasn’t sure why I didn’t feel okay with it.
Brian has been the best support system in this crazy few 8 months (and the best business agent. ha. And he was totally okay with me “just” being a stay at home mom, I say that lightly as we know SAHMs work hard, as do working mothers). He has reached out to his friends on my behalf. He has hosted his own show to make sure his buddies were being good hubbies and boyfriends. He has shared my posts on his page. He has been okay with me memorizing our credit card number 🙈. He is my biggest support.
But in the end I do this for me. It is a chance for me to have a schedule, to feel normal, to set monthly goals (and crush them!), to live uncomfortable, to grow my confidence, to help out financially (California is heck’a expensive!!), to have fun. It’s my way of providing for my family, focusing on me first (it’s all about that self-care!) and channeling that energy and feelings of accomplishment into my life as a wife and mother. I get to meet new women who I help have a fun girl’s night in and foster/strengthen relationships with their friends. I get to introduce women to something that might be life-changing for them. I get to help someone find purpose.
I know the multiple invites and number of companies out there will continue to grow, but before you roll your eyes and laugh at another group, remember that we are people, too. That the hesitation and fear we have to send the invite is HUGE. That the negative perception about our company is recognized, but we are working to change that. That we are just women and men who are trying something new, who are tired of working a 9-5 job, who are not entirely in it for the money, or who may be in it for the money.
I am a women who wants to stay home and raise her children, at the expense of growing my career as a social worker, and also realizes that I have found something that can help ease the burden my husband feels every months-end we sit down and figure out why we went over budget again. I am someone who has reached out to close friends and family, to “friends”, to people I have never met prior to the night of the show, and to those I meet virtually through my shows. Everyone’s why is different and until you fully understand that, simply reply with “no thanks”, “not now”, or “that sounds amazing”.
We understand the negative aspects of our chosen business model, one would be naive to say they had no idea. We realize it can be repetitive, but common courtesy is appreciated. If you get added to a group or event and don’t wish to be in it, simply leave the group. No hard feelings either way, and most of my hostesses acknowledge that with their first posts. They are inviting those they feel would absolutely love the products and need a reason to treat themselves.
I have a few thank you’s to give and I won’t name names, as I will likely forget some and would feel terrible (cue Chameleon traits!), so I figured I’d end it like this:
To all those I have bugged with multiple Facebook messages, texts, emails, phone calls, and posts, THANK YOU. You are what makes my business work. For all those who have shared my posts or liked my posts, THANK YOU. You are what spreads my business to new people. To those of you who have purchased from me or hosted, THANK YOU. You are what gets me closer to my monthly goals, and closer to my updated why (ask me if you’d like to know!) Thank you all for the support as I continue with this crazy adventure. If you have questions don’t hesitate to ask. I’d love to chat.