Santa Visit and Christmas Party

Our neighborhood put on the most fun Christmas party this past weekend. My favorite part was seeing the kids reactions to Santa Claus! haha

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Carson was terrified at first, but eventually warmed up – he even gave him a high five before we left!

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Elizabeth never warmed up! As soon as she sat in his lap, the tears started…and didn’t stop until I snagged her back up.

Paisley loved every minute of it and asked him for real makeup! And a microphone…at least one is on her list!

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There were a ton of activities for the kids – face painting, balloon artist, glitter tattoos, coloring, ornament making – the list goes on! It kept our kiddos entertained throughout the entirety of our time there.

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We ended our time with a little dance party with Santa’s elves. Paisley of course loved it and Carson sat on the sidelines and watched – his go to.

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It is only the start of our Christmas season celebration and I am excited to continue to create memories with our kids. Next up, hot chocolate and touring the city Christmas lights!

~xo~

Mom Fashion Friday

So I’m starting this new thing – let me know your thoughts!

I’ve had a lot of people ask me where I get my cute “mom clothes” – and let me be the first to tell you how shocked I am at these requests…me and fashionable in the same sentence is almost laughable. I am an everyday work at home momma who wears a t-shirt and jeans half the time, and yoga pants with a workout tee the other half.

I have started to branch out a bit and try my luck with “actually” getting ready some days (usually Sundays, let’s be real here) and trying to find good, quality pieces that will transition my t-shirts with the least amount of work possible.

Every Friday (I hope I am that consistent), I’ll be putting together a few of my pictures with the details on where I purchased the clothing items – or similar items – PLUS I’ll share some good finds from other MORE FASHIONABLE mommas!

If you’re friends with me on Facebook or Insta, you have seen this look most recently. When I first found out we were prego I knew I needed some new wardrobe pieces to fit the winter and spring time here in California. So many people recommended PinkBlushMaternity.com and I have not been disappointed yet with any of my purchases. Although I will say, I bought a pair of distressed skinny jeans from them – which I wear almost daily – but now that my baby bump is almost full grown, the belly panel hits almost at belly button level. I usually just roll it down so you can’t see the line. But if that bugs you, I’d probably look elsewhere for pants/jeans.

This Black and White Striped Dress I got from Pink Blush is SUPER comfortable and stretchy. My favorite part about most of the pieces I have from this company is that MOST are wearable post baby. This dress included. I apparently am a sucker for anything striped, so a black and white striped comfy dress is perf!

I paired the dress with the Lucky Brand  Risza open toe wedges – but they’re sold out! You can find similar Lucky Brand Styles from Nordstroms here (you can find similar ones from Amazon here) and of course some Stella jewels.

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Celestial Choker, Essential Fringe Necklace, Bridge Bracelet/Ring, Chevron Leather Wrap, Ansley Cuff

Now for the “actual fashionable” ladies to get debuted! First up is my good friend Shannon Willardson. She is the voice of GBOFashion.com and has been a fashion blogger for over 4 years. She is a momma of 2 adorable kiddos and an Idaho girl at heart. Her style is impeccable and I absolutely love everything she wears – secretly hoping one day her garage filled clothing items can make there way to my house! Follow her on Instagram or Facebook to be inspired…seriously…she’s that good! AND she’s an AMAZING person – for real, for real – love her kindness and sincerity. She’s one of the many wonderful ladies I get to call my friend out here in Cali!

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Seriously…how cute is she? And I LOVE her blog posts as well – she shares the details on all of her pieces, including some worthy splurges and perfect savers for all your wardrobe needs. You definitely should check her out!

Let me know your thoughts on this type of post. I’d love to hear what ya think! It’s kind of fun for me to do and I hope you like them!!

Have a fantastic Friday all!

~xo~

The Last Year of My 20s

I feel like I have posted a lot about reflecting on my past – days, weeks or years – and over time I find that it helps me refocus on changes that I have said I would work on, or focus on what skills I need to improve on.

I write this today on my birthday – my 29th birthday, a.k.a. the last one before the big 3-0! I want to focus on the past year and all the changes that have occurred which bring me to where I am today – a nervous wreck half the time, and a well managed/organized pleasant person the other half! ha

Last year, Brian and I packed up our belongings and moved to California. A land we had never lived in before, where we knew no one. It is by a HUGE blessing from God that we landed where we are. The friends we have here are AMAZING and I’m so glad we felt the need to buy the house we did. We’ve been blessed beyond measure in both Brian’s career opportunity as well as our family’s well-being with this move and leap of faith.

We also had the pleasant (and some what scary) surprise of getting the chance to welcome a new baby into our family. Everyone says the 3rd kid is what did them in…so we welcome all the positive thoughts and baby wisdom you have! We are very excited, but at the same time a little nervous to see how this one goes.

Every time I feel overwhelmed, I think back to my daily scripture study and how that is helping reassure current decisions we make and my mothering skills. Through countless trials and tribulations, there are many examples of people overcoming these fears through trusting in the Lord. That is what I am aiming to do. I know there are feelings of insecurity throughout my daily life (in all aspects!), but putting my trust in Him is only helping me push through. This faith and hope of good is what helped us get to where we as a family are today.

If we hadn’t trusted Him with a move to California, the house and ward we are in, and the thoughts of adding another baby to our family I’m not sure where we would be. Brian and I have grown closer as a couple and stronger as parents. Our children have met some pretty amazing friends and found out what it is like to strengthen those relationships. We have been blessed beyond measure as a family and both Brian and my testimony have grown!

Even though I’m a bit nervous about this upcoming year, I am excited to see what it brings. Our new baby will be here in a month or so (OMGOSH!!!!!), a new sister (Cannot believe my brother is getting married! But so excited for their future!!!), and there is an upcoming BIG changes for our family – will give more details when we know more! Reflecting on the past year and seeing all the positives, blessings and joys we experienced only makes me that much more excited for the last year of my 20s!

~xo~

A Nice Little Reminder

Last night I received a text from one of my besties – and it literally made me tear up. It was the SWEETEST thing ever and just the right thing I needed to hear. The gist of it was that she was super impressed at my ability to have 3 babies (soon!) in 3 different states and not even blink an eye…..if she only knew! ha. But seriously…who sends these random messages to their girlfriends at just the right time?!? It was so needed and made me feel like all my doubts need to be pushed aside. So thanks lady (you know who you are!)

This got me thinking the about the last few months and if I have been working my best to improve myself. If you have kept up with my blog, you know that I’ve made a commitment to myself this year to stop comparing myself to others (BIG TASK…I know…ha) and to be my own person. Begin to discover who I truly am and what makes me feel special. I continue to get sucked back in to comparing myself to others (see this post, this one,  and this one if you need to see this recurring struggle happening in my life) – It’s a vicious cycle that I keep finding myself in – struggling to make it out.

But this text, just a simple 2 second thing that my girl sent me – just because she was thinking of me – got me back on track. As many of you know, I am currently pregnant with our 3rd kiddo…and I’m freaking out a bit. I find myself struggling daily to keep my cool with Paisley and Carson, only to realize I blew it…again…and the day starts over – me trying to stay calm and patient. Most days I feel pretty successful, but there are times where I think back to how my day went and feel ashamed. Ashamed at how I yelled again…ashamed at how I put myself first, rather than taking the 2 minutes to address their needs…ashamed at the satisfaction I feel when it is finally naptime!

I think to myself “how am I going to do this with 3 kids?” This is a daily struggle and concern. My feelings of inadequacy run deep – not just around raising children, but in most facets of my life. As much as I don’t like to admit (and as weird as it feels to say/write them down), this blog is actually helping me realize these negative thoughts and feelings I have about myself and my abilities. Just scrolling through these posts, you can see that I think about these things a lot. I tend to share them a lot too (a lot more than I had intended), but for whatever reason it makes me feel better. So they will continue.

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When I realize these self-doubts, I have to remember that they come from a dark place – the adversary is a tricky guy and he gets very good and getting in to our hearts and minds. This text I got last night is the reminder I needed – I Am Enough! I can do this. Someone out there thinks I am a wonderful mother and example. She has faith and trust in me that I can do this, that I am not alone. That I am strong. I’ve proven it time and time again – multiple moves, multiple children, multiple life changes – and I’ve done all of them! I grew stronger with each new step. I am becoming my own person and we as a family are continuing to grow closer and rely on each other. I am a mom to 2 (almost 3!) amazing and wonderful children. They are the reason I was placed on this Earth. To guide them, teach them, show them the way.

A little pep talk for myself this lovely Wednesday afternoon. Thanks for hanging with me throughout my self-discovery process. I promise not all posts will be this heavy, but just felt that this needed to be shared. It gets it off my chest – so if it only helps me, that is good enough for me!

The next time you feel the need to call or text a friend, please do! Act on that prompting. It may seem small to you, but it may be just what that friend needs to hear.

Happy Wednesday All!

~xo~

SoulPancake – Advice

I stumbled on this video on SoulPancake’s Facebook page. Just felt the need to share it here. I love hearing from others and think you could benefit too!

If you have never seen a video from SoulPancake, then you HAVE to check out their page. They post the best “feel-good”, and thought provoking videos. I just love how they capture what truly goes on in every person’s head on a daily basis – and put it out there for the world to see.

I will start to regularly post some of their videos, just to break up the negativity I see throughout my daily life!

Enjoy!

~xo~

Valentine’s Day Gifting Round-Up

Quick little gift guide for all those who need it! Valentine’s Day is coming quickly. Let me know what you think!

For Her:

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Diamond Initial Necklace: Gift her something she will love. White or black diamonds, 14k gold or white gold necklace. Get the first letter of her name, first letter of her last name, or a letter for each of her kiddos. These look great worn alone or layered.

Leather 3-in-1 Crossbody: Stella & Dot has been killing it lately in the bag department! This beauty can be worn 3 different ways, one of which converts to a clutch for those classier nights. I am also loving the new Sloane Bag. It comes in a fun spring mushroom color or a neutral saddle.

Engravable Bar Necklace: Personalization is the new ‘it’ thing these days. Engraving is included on this necklace and you can get kids names, wedding date or special coordinates. PLUS if you choose the gold finish, you can get it for $19.99 when you spend $50, now through Monday February 6th! Get her a $50 e-gift for later and the engravable necklace for now. Win-win!

Date Night Shoes: I just went to Target today and am LOVING all of the shoes they have out right now! If your date is more casual (ice cream and a stroll), you need to get her these Dolce Vita slip ons! I bought the pink suede version, but they have a cute black style too. For a more dressy date night I love these Journee Collection Peep Toe Pumps, these Merona Wedge Sandals, or these Dolce Vita Peep Toe Booties.

Planner and Pens: In my book, you can never have too cute of a planner or too many pens. Especially colorful pens! Target has a bunch of planners, but I’m loving this style. I also have a Mormon Mom Planner and like the way the daily calendar is laid out, the monthly planner and room for notes, budgeting, monthly goals. It is all in one place. My favorite pens are either Sharpie Pens or Staedtler Pens

Graphic Tee: I completely ruined my Valentine’s Day already and opened my present! Usually Brian ships gifts to his office, but he forget this time. When it arrived I didn’t recognize the sender and opened it! It was a sweatshirt from Saturday Morning Pancakes. Her graphic tees and shirts are amazing and this sweatshirt is SO soft! He got me a small and it fits over my prego belly! I’m loving this tee too.

For Him:

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Jord Wood Watch: Unique wood watches that come in a variety of wood colors and watch styles. I am loving these two options the best tho! Frankie Series and Dover Series

Pocket Squares: If your hubby likes to show off in a suit, let him customize it a bit with a splash of color or pattern from a pocket square. Found these Pocket Squares these on Amazon and they offer a variety of color and pattern options.

Tie Clip: Finish off the chic suit look with some tie clips. Brian is gigantic, so a tie clip is an absolute must-have. I love these tie clips, that gives him some options.

Fit Bit: Brian is loving his Fit Bit Blaze. It is similar to the Apple Watch, but doesn’t have built in GPS. Easily syncs to his phone and app. There are a bunch of additional band options, as well. Found this one on Amazon, but the options are literally endless.

Date Night Sneakers: I am totally a Nike sneaker girl, but for a date night or something that needs a bit more class I love these Timberland sneakers I got for Brian. They go with everything. Saw this pair of Steve Madden’s that look great!

For That Little Girl:

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Necklace & Bracelet Set: Paisley loves this set. It’s her “long necklace”. Bright coral beads with a sparkly flower brooch and grey ribbon. Matching stretchy bracelet finishes the look.

Earring Trio Set: Silver ribbon earrings, pearl and heart earrings set. Perfect for a girl with new ear piercings or to add to her collection.

Friendship Bracelet: This cute adjustable bracelet comes in silver or gold, with braided string and a fun tassel. Wear it alone or stack it with other pieces. Get one for you and one for her for a matching set!

Notebook: Get her a fun and stylish notebook for all those doodles, homework or notes! This one from Amazon is super cute and holds the staple girl anthem! 😉

Love Tee: I love finding shirts that not only fit holidays, but that Paisley can wear year round. This one looks great with jeans or leggings (because that’s all Paisley will wear!).

Kid Safe Knives: Paisley has asked me daily to help cut veggies in the kitchen. Meal prep can sometimes be a hard time to keep the kids happy and get dinner ready. I found these knives from Amazon and we had the chance to test them out tonight! She chopped carrots (with a little help from me making them skinnier) while I did the onions and broccoli. It was SO nice to have a helper and keep her occupied.

~xo~

A New Direction

These past few weeks I have been focusing on what the emphasis should be for my blog and instagram account (@momontrend) for this year – I should probably say that from the beginning of this adventure I have been trying to focus what the main point should be, finding myself struggling to find a consistent and satisfying path. This is where my brain is going and the path I want to venture down…stay with me…and let me know your feedback!

With so much focus on social media and the “perfect” family or “perfect” life, there is a lot of pressure on all of us to achieve these expectations. Brian actually shared a post with me about Lifestyle Porn (check it out here), and I feel that it is pretty spot on. The author relates the pornography epidemic to the obsession that women and men feel looking through Facebook or Instagram daily.  I’m not sure about Utah being the sole area where it is found, but the obsession with others’ lives, their fashion or fitness level, the need to check in on people multiple times a day, etc. is spot on – just like someone’s addiction to pornography for sexual gratification, it truly is an obsession. One that makes us feel inadequate in our own lives, and leaving us with a desire for more.

With so many gorgeous women with perfect makeup, seemingly perfect children, immaculately clean houses and gorgeous clothes, it makes it hard for “plain Janes” or us “normals” to feel complete. Brian recently mentioned that, he too, had to unfollow a few fitness bloggers due to the feelings of inadequacy he felt about his own image, time management and food choices. High, usually unrealistic, expectations are all around us. Tempting us to lose focus of what is really important: our family, our faith and our friends.

I find myself falling into this trap over and over. Just the other day I told Brian about Rodan + Fields Eyelash Serum and how I would love some for my lashes and eyebrows because “that’s what everybody is doing now, longer eyelashes and fuller eyebrows”. He just turned to me and said “Why do you have to be like everybody else? I married you and I love you the way you are.”

Thanks for the reality check babe, again! There it was, that daily struggle I go through scrolling my instagram or Facebook feed. I got suckered again! ha. That’s when I figured I needed to find my purpose, find my focus, find myself.

This in turn means finding a path for this blog and my @momontrend instagram account. I find myself shifting from what I think other people want to read or see, and instead focus on what I want others to see or read (even if you don’t want to. haha!).

So here it goes…this blog is going to be about: my family, my failures/successes, putting my best foot forward (and hopefully by sharing these, it will help someone else, too), my somewhat new love for fashion and mom-style, and my views on parenting.

I have made it a goal this year to stop comparing myself to what others have/do and be thankful for the things I can do, the blessings I have. Sitting in Relief Society yesterday, we heard a lesson about sisterhood; what it means, how to strengthen it, and why it is important. In it was a quote from a talk given by Sis. Bonnie Oscarson (read the whole talk here) that truly hit me. Nothing too profound, but just enough truth to make me stop and think:

“The adversary would have us be critical or judgmental of one another. He wants us to concentrate on our differences and compare ourselves to one another. You may love to exercise vigorously for an hour each day because it makes you feel so good, while I consider it to be a major athletic event if I walk up one flight of stairs instead of taking the elevator. We can still be friends, can’t we?”

So relevant to my life lately. The adversary is so smart and has quite the grip on me these past few months. It made me slow down and think about how I can start to work on this change. There is no reason to be so critical of ourselves, especially since we are all daughters of a King. We are different for a reason. If the world was made up of millions of Kallies, it would be a pretty boring place! Embrace each other’s differences and empower each other.

I have a quote on my mirror that I see every day to remind me of this. YOU ARE ENOUGH. We all are. Remember that!

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From a daily mantra, to tying in my instagram ;). I have struggled to figure out how my @momontrend would flow. I originally started it to relieve my close family and friends from Stella & Dot overload, as I know how many social selling companies are flooding our Facebook and other social media feeds. This account has and will continue to blossom (or at least I hope) into a page where you can see pictures of me, my family and my mommy fashion, with Stella & Dot mixed in. I am a basic tee and jeans girl that has grown to love adding flair with accessories. This is COMPLETELY out of my comfort zone, but something I’ve been wanting to do and share. So I am going for it. All out. No more excuses. No more hiding behind someone or something else. I am doing it for me. To grow. To share my story. To share my joy.

The parenting advice piece comes from a need to re-establish a healthy boundary for myself. I have a background in social work, particularly with little kiddos and their families and parents. I love sharing my knowledge (and a lot of failures and lessons learned along the way with my own family), and feel that not having practiced in almost 18 months I am losing my techniques. I am losing my patience with my own children and husband. I am miserable to be around. By committing to writing posts and reviewing articles, I will force myself to crack open my books and re-learn best practices. Will that make things perfect, no, but it can only help. Applying these techniques in my own life and family is what I need to do to make myself a happier mom and wife. For these two things, I am committed and willing to change!

So in a crazy nutshell, this will be the new focus for the blog and my instagram. Putting myself out there will only help with accountability. I want to be the best version of me and by hashing things out through this blog I can only make myself better.

So get ready for daily (or at least I’ll try my best!) pictures of my outfits and jewelry pairings/my kids/my #handyhubbys projects, bi-weekly posts on here about life happenings/reviews of articles/current DIY projects, and a whole lot of fun. I’m excited and nervous for this new turn in life. I have said this multiple times throughout the past year, but feel I now have a direction and plan.

Here goes nothing! I hope you enjoy the ride!

~xo~