Switching gears a bit this post – there are just too many good deals from Stella & Dot to NOT call attention to!
Twice a year Stella & Dot does a “cleaning” of certain styles, which puts them on the retiring list! That time of the year is NOW! 15% of our line will be retired in order to make room for the new line launch in July! Starting today through May 30th these retiring styles are on MEGA sale…I cannot believe the deals they are having PLUS it’s Dot Dollar time! For every $50 you spend now, you get $25 off $50 to redeem later.
This isn’t even the most exciting part…I am having a Mystery Hostess show right now through Tuesday the 23rd. Any order placed earns an entry to win ALL the hostess rewards (which are currently at $252 in free goodies and 4 half off items!). More orders = bigger rewards! You can shop that show link here (click sale tab to see all the amazing deals!!!) and all the items I am linking in the pictures today are linked through the show. If you see something snag it up, because it might not be around for long!
PS – WAY more styles online than I’m highlighting…obviously. These are a few of my favorites that are on sale!
This weekend only there is an additional 25% off the sale prices. Don’t forget to shop through the Mystery Hostess link here to earn an entry to win all the goodies (Currently sitting at $252 in free product plus 4 half off items!)
So I failed at getting this post up in a consistent and timely manner…surprise…BUT here is the second edition of my Mom Fashion Friday! I am continuing to improve my posting consistency, and for some reason I go in spurts! I promise it will get better. HA!
It’s getting a little harder to feel comfortable with this gigantic belly – 37 weeks in this photo – but we are getting more and more excited to meet our baby girl!
I’ve wanted a floral wrap dress for a while now and finally found one that I love. It’s the perfect light blue color AND it is long enough for my 5 foot 7 frame. Super comfy and thick (no extra layers! woohoo). My favorite aspect is that I can wear it after I have baby too. Perfect for nursing and beyond.
I had to share Paisley’s style too! She specifically asked to have her picture taken – and that I got some of her twirling! (She poses WAY better than I do and I probably need to take tips on twirling from her!)
I hope you guys are enjoying this type of post. Let me know your thoughts!! Happy Friday All!
Quick little gift guide for all those who need it! Valentine’s Day is coming quickly. Let me know what you think!
Diamond Initial Necklace: Gift her something she will love. White or black diamonds, 14k gold or white gold necklace. Get the first letter of her name, first letter of her last name, or a letter for each of her kiddos. These look great worn alone or layered.
Leather 3-in-1 Crossbody: Stella & Dot has been killing it lately in the bag department! This beauty can be worn 3 different ways, one of which converts to a clutch for those classier nights. I am also loving the new Sloane Bag. It comes in a fun spring mushroom color or a neutral saddle.
Engravable Bar Necklace: Personalization is the new ‘it’ thing these days. Engraving is included on this necklace and you can get kids names, wedding date or special coordinates. PLUS if you choose the gold finish, you can get it for $19.99 when you spend $50, now through Monday February 6th! Get her a $50 e-gift for later and the engravable necklace for now. Win-win!
Planner and Pens: In my book, you can never have too cute of a planner or too many pens. Especially colorful pens! Target has a bunch of planners, but I’m loving this style. I also have a Mormon Mom Planner and like the way the daily calendar is laid out, the monthly planner and room for notes, budgeting, monthly goals. It is all in one place. My favorite pens are either Sharpie Pens or Staedtler Pens
Graphic Tee: I completely ruined my Valentine’s Day already and opened my present! Usually Brian ships gifts to his office, but he forget this time. When it arrived I didn’t recognize the sender and opened it! It was a sweatshirt from Saturday Morning Pancakes. Her graphic tees and shirts are amazing and this sweatshirt is SO soft! He got me a small and it fits over my prego belly! I’m loving this tee too.
Jord Wood Watch: Unique wood watches that come in a variety of wood colors and watch styles. I am loving these two options the best tho! Frankie Series and Dover Series
Pocket Squares: If your hubby likes to show off in a suit, let him customize it a bit with a splash of color or pattern from a pocket square. Found these Pocket Squares these on Amazon and they offer a variety of color and pattern options.
Tie Clip: Finish off the chic suit look with some tie clips. Brian is gigantic, so a tie clip is an absolute must-have. I love these tie clips, that gives him some options.
Fit Bit: Brian is loving his Fit Bit Blaze. It is similar to the Apple Watch, but doesn’t have built in GPS. Easily syncs to his phone and app. There are a bunch of additional band options, as well. Found this one on Amazon, but the options are literally endless.
Date Night Sneakers: I am totally a Nike sneaker girl, but for a date night or something that needs a bit more class I love these Timberland sneakers I got for Brian. They go with everything. Saw this pair of Steve Madden’s that look great!
For That Little Girl:
Necklace & Bracelet Set: Paisley loves this set. It’s her “long necklace”. Bright coral beads with a sparkly flower brooch and grey ribbon. Matching stretchy bracelet finishes the look.
Friendship Bracelet: This cute adjustable bracelet comes in silver or gold, with braided string and a fun tassel. Wear it alone or stack it with other pieces. Get one for you and one for her for a matching set!
Notebook: Get her a fun and stylish notebook for all those doodles, homework or notes! This one from Amazon is super cute and holds the staple girl anthem! 😉
Love Tee: I love finding shirts that not only fit holidays, but that Paisley can wear year round. This one looks great with jeans or leggings (because that’s all Paisley will wear!).
Kid Safe Knives: Paisley has asked me daily to help cut veggies in the kitchen. Meal prep can sometimes be a hard time to keep the kids happy and get dinner ready. I found these knives from Amazon and we had the chance to test them out tonight! She chopped carrots (with a little help from me making them skinnier) while I did the onions and broccoli. It was SO nice to have a helper and keep her occupied.
A few weeks ago I saw a meme/video on Facebook that poked fun at the amount of Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) or Direct Sales companies. The gist of it was that people are so sick and tired of being invited to Facebook events, and added to groups of their friends who have taken the brave step to host a show or sign up to sell a product they love and believe in. These range from Stella & Dot, Younique, DotTerra and Beachbody. I myself am an Associate Stylist for Stella & Dot and have many friends and family members who represent other brands.
The real problem I had was not the video itself, but all the comments associated with the video. These ranged from positive to negative comments, but the ones that truly got to me were the mean, hateful and down right rude comments. Seriously, people need to learn the old saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.” Even on the internet. Everyone has a little more courage behind a screen and most would never say those comments to a person’s face.
I wanted to write a little plug for all those who have made the decision to sign up with a company, and for all those who fully support them. Direct sales companies have a very negative view to the general public. Pyramid schemes sound so negative. I was looking for some funny memes to add to this and typed in multi level marketing meme…almost 90% of what I saw was negative. I figure it’s time to break my silence and give you the flip side of a direct sales company, from someone who was that person ignoring the requests to join groups, declining invitations to host and had thoughts similar to “why would I pay for something I could by elsewhere, just so you get to make more money?”
Stella & Dot is the second direct sales company I joined, and I use that lightly. I don’t count my week long, very poor decision to sign up for Mary Kay. The pitch got me and it was hard to say no. I can laugh now, but LBH, to sell MK you have to like doing makeup, or at least be good at it…which I am neither! But hey I received a ton of goodies that I used, so at least there’s that.
I was VERY hesitant to sign up for S&D, and Brian was even more against the notion (seeing how terribly the whole MK thing went). We had a long sit down about my decision and made a spreadsheet (I know, shocker right??) of the potential cost, my goals, where I wanted to be within the company and how I would achieve that. My upline, who is the bomb.com BTW and an old Chi O friend, messaged me multiple times for about 2 months dangling more carrots with each message 😉. Still, even though I loved the products and saw the potential, I struggled to pull the trigger. This is WAY out of my comfort zone and would challenge me in ways I wasn’t sure I would enjoy.
During the time I was considering signing up, we were going through some major changes as a family. We recently welcomed Carson into the world, I quit my full-time job to stay at home…oh and there was that cross-country move we were making. Starting this adventure would mean having to be social! And talk to people I didn’t know! (My introverted-self is sweating right now just thinking about it. ha) But seriously, it was the one thing that was holding me back. Could I actually do it? Could I ask my friends to host? My family to host? My facebook “friends”? People I hadn’t talked to in years? I still feel this way, even with strangers. Then you realize that I wouldn’t be doing my job, I wouldn’t be growing and challenging myself as planned. So I did. And continue to do.
Every person who begins a direct sales position has these questions go through their head, and ultimately has to decide how important their “why” is. If your why is important, then you just do it. If people say no, who cares. Move on. No harm done. Now this took me a long time to learn and be okay with. If you read my previous post about personality profiles, you will know I am a chameleon. Pleasing others is my number one goal in life. When I approach people with the opportunity to host or join, I want them to see the joy that I have experienced with this group of women I am now connected with. And when they say “not now” or “no thanks”, I feel like I have offended them…even though there is absolutely no reason to feel that way!
Once you join a direct sales company, you go through a paradigm shift. Mine went from “why would I give this person money?” to “I would love to support you get closer to your why”. The tribe that I am connected with are my best cheerleaders (and yes I acknowledge that they want me to do well, so they in turn make more money, etc. but it’s not even about that anymore). They are there to help me problem solve my struggles, to help me overcome my introverted-ness, to make me feel the fear and do it anyway, to change me for the better, to help me grow in confidence. We all share our dreams, our why, our goals with each other. We work as a team to empower each other and to do our best to help others achieve those goals.
It isn’t all about the money, that is nice, and the jewels are nice, too. But being a stay at home mom prior to signing up, I felt lost. I felt that my worth had diminished a bit, since I wasn’t working and having daily challenges. I wasn’t making and surpassing goals. It was a weird feeling for me, and I wasn’t sure why I didn’t feel okay with it.
Brian has been the best support system in this crazy few 8 months (and the best business agent. ha. And he was totally okay with me “just” being a stay at home mom, I say that lightly as we know SAHMs work hard, as do working mothers). He has reached out to his friends on my behalf. He has hosted his own show to make sure his buddies were being good hubbies and boyfriends. He has shared my posts on his page. He has been okay with me memorizing our credit card number 🙈. He is my biggest support.
But in the end I do this for me. It is a chance for me to have a schedule, to feel normal, to set monthly goals (and crush them!), to live uncomfortable, to grow my confidence, to help out financially (California is heck’a expensive!!), to have fun. It’s my way of providing for my family, focusing on me first (it’s all about that self-care!) and channeling that energy and feelings of accomplishment into my life as a wife and mother. I get to meet new women who I help have a fun girl’s night in and foster/strengthen relationships with their friends. I get to introduce women to something that might be life-changing for them. I get to help someone find purpose.
I know the multiple invites and number of companies out there will continue to grow, but before you roll your eyes and laugh at another group, remember that we are people, too. That the hesitation and fear we have to send the invite is HUGE. That the negative perception about our company is recognized, but we are working to change that. That we are just women and men who are trying something new, who are tired of working a 9-5 job, who are not entirely in it for the money, or who may be in it for the money.
I am a women who wants to stay home and raise her children, at the expense of growing my career as a social worker, and also realizes that I have found something that can help ease the burden my husband feels every months-end we sit down and figure out why we went over budget again. I am someone who has reached out to close friends and family, to “friends”, to people I have never met prior to the night of the show, and to those I meet virtually through my shows. Everyone’s why is different and until you fully understand that, simply reply with “no thanks”, “not now”, or “that sounds amazing”.
We understand the negative aspects of our chosen business model, one would be naive to say they had no idea. We realize it can be repetitive, but common courtesy is appreciated. If you get added to a group or event and don’t wish to be in it, simply leave the group. No hard feelings either way, and most of my hostesses acknowledge that with their first posts. They are inviting those they feel would absolutely love the products and need a reason to treat themselves.
I have a few thank you’s to give and I won’t name names, as I will likely forget some and would feel terrible (cue Chameleon traits!), so I figured I’d end it like this:
To all those I have bugged with multiple Facebook messages, texts, emails, phone calls, and posts, THANK YOU. You are what makes my business work. For all those who have shared my posts or liked my posts, THANK YOU. You are what spreads my business to new people. To those of you who have purchased from me or hosted, THANK YOU. You are what gets me closer to my monthly goals, and closer to my updated why (ask me if you’d like to know!) Thank you all for the support as I continue with this crazy adventure. If you have questions don’t hesitate to ask. I’d love to chat.
My Why in life has always and will always be my family. They are my reason for every choice I have made and will make, including starting this blog. Promptings to begin a journal repeatedly played in my head for years and I am taking the first step at recovery and admitting that I am THE WORST at taking care of myself. I put others first and get joy out of seeing others happy. This is a chance for me to put myself first which will in turn help me to provide for my family as my best self. So here goes nothing…
I am excited to share my thoughts, experiences, social work expertise (eek!), and new-found Stella & Dot adventure! As a new transplant to San Francisco, finding myself is more important than ever. We made this leap not knowing anything about the area, but are blessed to find the house we have, the ward we are in, and the friends we have made so far.
Brian is my wonderful husband who loves me unconditionally (even when the days are long and I have yet to shower!). He is my best friend and confidant. He is the best daddy to our 2 children, exuding playfulness and genuine love for them. Paisley is our firecracker threenager with the amazing ability to show empathy towards others and loves experiencing the joy in life. Carson came into our lives in August and has not stopped moving since (which may or may not impede his sleeping!). I go back and forth wanting him to grow up quickly so he can join in on the fun with Paisley, but also do not want to lose this baby phase yet! We have 2 dogs, Beau and Hunter, who are the best dogs we could have asked for and have willingly accepted “second-class citizen” status since Paisley and Carson have come along.
Along with the new adventure of San Fran life, I made the transition to stay at home mom status after Carson was born. Seriously the hardest job of my life and also the most rewarding! I would not trade the chance to experience all the joys and bumps that come with this blessing. Although I absolutely love staying at home with my kiddos, I do envision a play therapy based private practice in my future. My passion for children continues to develop while I am home, and the chance to resume individual and family therapy excites me. Everyone always asks how I ever did my previous job, and my response always was “Knowing that I might be the only positive relationship that child or family has is enough to negate all the other junk that comes with the job.”
As if a cross-country move and transitioning to a stay at home mom was not enough ‘new’ all at once, I also signed up as an Independent Stylist for Stella & Dot. This position brings a whole lot of challenge that was missing when I resigned from therapeutic work and a whole lot of fun too! I get to play dress up with amazing jewelry and accessories, all while empowering others to find their joy and their why. It is something that is just for me and helps push myself outside of the tiny bubble I tend to gravitate towards. I cannot wait to see what the S&D puzzle piece adds to the full picture.
There you have it…another blog from a Stay at Home Mom, DIY do-er, former Clinical Social Worker, child lover, and Stella & Dot entrepreneur. I hope you enjoy the journey as much as I do. It sure will bring surprises, trials, joys and everything in between. Sit back, buckle up and enjoy the ride…I know I will!