Mom Guilt- We All Have It

This has to be my biggest struggle to date. I have self-confidence issues, I would be terrible at a diet because I like candy and ice cream too much, I have a hard time following through with a workout plan, my house is not perfect and my kids might look a mess because they like to dress themselves. The hardest thing for me to overcome is Mom Guilt. It is what is the underlying issue to all of the above mentioned “problems” in my daily life.

Self-confidence issues are a result of not putting myself first (or so I think). I have always been a giver – thinking of others before myself. That quality is great, as long as you take time to give yourself something back. If you are always focusing on others, you struggle to see what is good about yourself. You struggle to develop your talents and constantly compare your achievements to others.

Sticking to a diet means putting time in to plan, prepare and stick to a meal plan, a work out plan, and not making excuses – cue Mom Guilt and being a giver – we give so much to others that we rarely put any time to focus on our needs.

I wish my house was perfectly clean and I was able to stick to a cleaning routine, but again I feel that I should be giving attention to my kids and my husband – playing with them, taking care of them, helping to relieve their stress levels.

My kids get to choose their clothes, it is not a battle I want to fight, but it also fosters their independence and confidence in making their own choices. Mom guilt comes in when I drop my kids off at school and realize all the other children are wearing matching clothes and their hair is done (haha).

We all deal with mom guilt (dad guilt) all the time, every day. Our house did not get clean because we were playing with the kids. The house got clean, but now we feel guilty because we did not play with the kids. Mom and dad have a date night because we need it. Mom and dad should be there to tuck the kids in bed. I am still in my pajamas, but my kids are dressed to the nines. I got ready today and my daughter ate dinner in her pajamas. There is no way to win.

Today I went live on my Facebook page talking about the mega dose of mom guilt I had for taking a shower. I am a big believer on spending quality time with your kids. I try to avoid using the TV as a babysitter, but today I woke up in a terrible mood. I forced myself to spend time with the kids prior to my shower- playing cars, building Magnatile houses and coloring. After putting Elizabeth down I made the choice to take a shower. Momma need an attitude adjustment – aka time alone to relax and check something tangible off my daily to do list. So I put on the TV (it was at least an educational show) and took a little me time. The kids watched the show and built with Magnatiles for about an hour – and this momma got dressed, did my hair and makeup. It felt great!

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Carson’s Car House (and yes, that’s a purple pacifier in his hand…)

As soon as I got done though I was hit with some mom guilt. I should have woke up before the kids and got ready. I should have taken the shower during naptime. I should have blah, blah, blah…you know the drill. So many reasons how we could have done something different, better, etc.

I decided that it did not kill them to watch an hour of TV today. The saying “if momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” is a true thing. In our house, I feel that my mood sets the tone of the home. Taking it upon myself to get in a better mood was what needed to happen today. I took the shower. I did my hair. I even put makeup on! And I am giving myself grace.

So this is me, giving you grace the next time you want to take a shower because you NEED it! You need to take time for yourself, even if it is only 10 minutes. Self-care is a big deal. I wrote a few different posts about self-care, the importance of self-care and different ways you can take some time for yourself. We must fill our cups before we can fill others – an empty cup has nothing to share.

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My little bucket heads aka my bucket (cup) fillers

You have my permission to leave the dishes in the sink and take a bubble bath while you read a good book. You have my permission to sleep in, just this once, because you want to. You have my permission to snuggle those babies a little bit longer and let the laundry sit in the dryer another day. We all need to take a step away from being a mommy, a wife, a whatever- and remember what it is like to be YOU.

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My little ghost baby (PS- my sweater is on sale right now!)

~xo~

Mom Fashion Friday

Another week flew by! I am excited it is already Friday, but at the same time I cannot believe it went this fast. I not only have some Mom Fashion deals to share, but I have a new kid site that Paisley has partnered with that carries SUPER cute and hand sewn designs for both boys and girls. A special code will give you 15% off your order – check for it in the Chocolate Soup Brand section of this post.

As you know, I LOVE Pink Blush. They have both women’s wear and maternity wear. Most of the maternity wear can be worn post-partum, which makes me love them even more. It is so easy to transition the pieces from bump to baby! This floral peplum shirt is my new fave. It hides the belly so nicely and is a great length on me. I’m 5’7″ and it hits perfectly. I have the coral version, but it also comes in a blue and black color.

Some other favorites from Pink Blush I have already posted about, and you can find them here and here. I have this Navy Maxi dress, but I do not have pictures of it yet. Super comfy, hits the floor (which is one of the main reasons why I love it) and nursing friendly!

Another new company that I have found is Poppy & Dot! I am waiting on my first piece from them, but found a bunch of simple and cute (and reasonably priced!) pieces. I am loving the Midi Dress for an upcoming wedding I have this fall. I think the navy color would be perfect! It is under $50 and has pockets! PLUS if you shop their main site and enter the code kallieG10 you will get 10% off your order! win-win! When I get my pieces in, I’ll be sure to take some pictures for you all!

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Last one today is a new kid’s line that I recently discovered. The creator of this shop, Brittany, and I went to high school together. (Check her out on Instagram here) Paisley was chosen as a brand rep and received the CUTEST peplum tee with her name embroidered on it!

I also just purchased this KC Birdie Tee and this Be Royal Tee! Even though we are California peeps now and soon to be Texas peeps…she will always be a KC girl at heart! Check out Chocolate Soup Brand and use the code PAISLEY15 to get 15% off your order.

I keep finding good boutiques and shops on Facebook (partially thanks to Casey and Shay!), so I will be sure to highlight them when I find them…mainly so I do not feel guilty being the ONLY one spending all the money! You have to suffer along with me, with all these cute clothes! haha

Happy Friday all!

~xo~

Fashion Friday

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Outfit Details:
On Kallie
Pink Blush Wrap Dress, c/o | Stella & Dot Bracelets {here, here and here} | Fitbit
On Paisley
Target Dress {exact one is from last year. Similar style here} | Cardigan | Mary Jane Flats

So I failed at getting this post up in a consistent and timely manner…surprise…BUT here is the second edition of my Mom Fashion Friday! I am continuing to improve my posting consistency, and for some reason I go in spurts! I promise it will get better. HA!

It’s getting a little harder to feel comfortable with this gigantic belly – 37 weeks in this photo – but we are getting more and more excited to meet our baby girl!

I’ve wanted a floral wrap dress for a while now and finally found one that I love. It’s the perfect light blue color AND it is long enough for my 5 foot 7 frame. Super comfy and thick (no extra layers! woohoo). My favorite aspect is that I can wear it after I have baby too. Perfect for nursing and beyond.

I had to share Paisley’s style too! She specifically asked to have her picture taken – and that I got some of her twirling! (She poses WAY better than I do and I probably need to take tips on twirling from her!)

I hope you guys are enjoying this type of post. Let me know your thoughts!! Happy Friday All!

~xo~

Mom Fashion Friday

So I’m starting this new thing – let me know your thoughts!

I’ve had a lot of people ask me where I get my cute “mom clothes” – and let me be the first to tell you how shocked I am at these requests…me and fashionable in the same sentence is almost laughable. I am an everyday work at home momma who wears a t-shirt and jeans half the time, and yoga pants with a workout tee the other half.

I have started to branch out a bit and try my luck with “actually” getting ready some days (usually Sundays, let’s be real here) and trying to find good, quality pieces that will transition my t-shirts with the least amount of work possible.

Every Friday (I hope I am that consistent), I’ll be putting together a few of my pictures with the details on where I purchased the clothing items – or similar items – PLUS I’ll share some good finds from other MORE FASHIONABLE mommas!

If you’re friends with me on Facebook or Insta, you have seen this look most recently. When I first found out we were prego I knew I needed some new wardrobe pieces to fit the winter and spring time here in California. So many people recommended PinkBlushMaternity.com and I have not been disappointed yet with any of my purchases. Although I will say, I bought a pair of distressed skinny jeans from them – which I wear almost daily – but now that my baby bump is almost full grown, the belly panel hits almost at belly button level. I usually just roll it down so you can’t see the line. But if that bugs you, I’d probably look elsewhere for pants/jeans.

This Black and White Striped Dress I got from Pink Blush is SUPER comfortable and stretchy. My favorite part about most of the pieces I have from this company is that MOST are wearable post baby. This dress included. I apparently am a sucker for anything striped, so a black and white striped comfy dress is perf!

I paired the dress with the Lucky Brand  Risza open toe wedges – but they’re sold out! You can find similar Lucky Brand Styles from Nordstroms here (you can find similar ones from Amazon here) and of course some Stella jewels.

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Striped Dress 2 and Booties
Lucky Brand Open Toed Booties
Striped Dress 3 and Jewels
Celestial Choker, Essential Fringe Necklace, Bridge Bracelet/Ring, Chevron Leather Wrap, Ansley Cuff

Now for the “actual fashionable” ladies to get debuted! First up is my good friend Shannon Willardson. She is the voice of GBOFashion.com and has been a fashion blogger for over 4 years. She is a momma of 2 adorable kiddos and an Idaho girl at heart. Her style is impeccable and I absolutely love everything she wears – secretly hoping one day her garage filled clothing items can make there way to my house! Follow her on Instagram or Facebook to be inspired…seriously…she’s that good! AND she’s an AMAZING person – for real, for real – love her kindness and sincerity. She’s one of the many wonderful ladies I get to call my friend out here in Cali!

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Seriously…how cute is she? And I LOVE her blog posts as well – she shares the details on all of her pieces, including some worthy splurges and perfect savers for all your wardrobe needs. You definitely should check her out!

Let me know your thoughts on this type of post. I’d love to hear what ya think! It’s kind of fun for me to do and I hope you like them!!

Have a fantastic Friday all!

~xo~